HEY! WATCH YOUR LANGUAGE!

Words Count!

The way you use words during self-talk has a tremendous impact on whether your subconscious mind works for you or against you.

For instance when you say, "I can't...," rather than, "I choose not to...," you convey to your subconscious mind that you have no choice in the situation. This creates a helpless attitude about your behavior and weakens your resolve.

"I choose..." implies that you have a choice in the matter. Likewise, when you say "I must...," and "I have to...." you are telling your subconscious mind that you
have no control over your behavior, that someone or something outside yourself is in the driver's seat.

This does not enthusiastically work to move you toward your goals. Therefore, always say "I choose to...," which, after all, usually is the truth of the matter.

Also, beware of using "I should..." It implies to your subconscious mind that your choice of behavior is being made from a position of guilt, which serves to
undermine your self-discipline power.

Remember: It's "I choose ..." When your
subconscious mind hears your priorities stated in a forceful, positive manner, it feels your power. It then uses that power to mobilize your inner resources toward achieving your priorities. In other words,
words count.

If you state your self-talk messages aloud, then they will be even stronger because your message will involve
two physical components, speech and hearing.

Your messages will have the power and support of not only your mental network, but also your physical network.

All the muscles and motor functions that are involved in your speaking and hearing will be activated and enlisted in the process of moving you toward doing your desired activity.

In other words, the more parts of yourself you involve in your self-talk, the more powerful the message will be to your subconscious mind. And, in turn, your subconscious mind will have more strength to support the actions you desire.

Watch your language then!

Reuben Koikai
Founder: Koikai Events

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LIFE CHANGING QUESTION

AN IMPORTANT QUESTION

Think About The Answer

We are always being asked questions. But what about the questions that change our lives. 

I was once asked such a question as a young man. The question was asked one eventful day during a shift I worked as a student in my College. 

When I was a student, as part of my responsibilities, I had an opportunity to meeting several elderly men who where all unique in their own way, and some of these gentleman took a lot more care than others, and some were a lot grumpier than others. 

A lot of students, quite frankly, did not enjoy talking with these men and would try to avoid spending any more time there then they had to. On the contrary, I took the opposite tack attending to the talks of these men. 

Instead of just asking about my academics development, I spent a lot of time talking, learning, just good old give them attention beyond what they needed time. So, I became the main target of their pent up mental energy and honestly, I had a lot of fun spending my time with them. 

But, beyond establishing a great rapport with these men, there was one gentleman I spent a lot of time talking with. He wasn't at first appearance much different than the rest but he had a wicked sense of humor and a grand spirit about him

Life Changing Question

One day, after all necessary academics and leadership tasks were done and I stayed with them, he called me over to his Office. At first thinking he was about to introduce the obvious topic's, I was ready. Instead, he beckoned me even close so he could obviously speak very quietly to me out of earshot of the other man. 

In a soft voice just above a whisper, he asked,

"What do you want to be remembered for after you die?" 

I was somewhat taken back thinking immediately that he was old  man, may be he got physical distress and required immediate medical attention. I quickly asked, "What's wrong? 

"No, no, no, nothing bad", he whispered. 

"I want you to think about just what I said. What do you want to be remembered for after you die? 

I Didn't Understand

"I don't understand what you are asking me". I said confused. 

"It really is a simple question but an important question. How do you want people to think of you when you die? Do you want to be known for your humor, for your caring, for helping people no matter who they are, or do you want to be remembered as a person of status, wealth, spending big money on a house, fancy car, long vacations or possessing big assets?"

I know I probably sounded like a babbling idiot to him at that time because I couldn't give him a well thought out answer at all. I still remember feeling uncomfortable because I had no clear answer to give. 

A Question Worth Thinking About

Over the years, we may all face this important question. It may be a question that comes to you because of a tragic circumstance, or it may come to you after you have observed or witnessed other people stepping up to many needed issues and taking on great odds to change societal obligations. 

It may be a question you ask in later years when you finally realize that you won't live forever. Or, it may also be a question that you may never want to ask yourself because you are too caught up in enjoying the materialistic side of life. 

Think About The Answer

Is it time for you to ask, "What do you want to be remembered for after you die?"

THE POWER YOU CAN NOT BUY

IT IS WITHIN YOU

Who do you know who has a lot of power? Maybe you know some famous business leaders who own and run large corporations worth millions of dollars or you may know some famous politicians, successful authors, or individual speculators in real estate who have made it big. Each of these types of people probably have buying power beyond what you ever imagined, or professional power to influence the policies or events of a country, or even the power to make or break careers as they see fit. 

But, I want to talk about a different kind of power and one that I believe is worth a lot more than you may realize. 

This is the kind of power that successful people know about from first hand experience, and the kind of power that cannot ever be taken from you. 

It is the kind of power that can change lives for the better, or make an everlasting mark on the well being of many around them.

So, what kind of power is this?
Where can you get it?
Is it available to only the chosen few? 

The Point Is This

We all have personal power to affect the behaviors of others and this is the power you can't buy, beg or steal. 

It is the power in your words and actions to influence others but this power can also be negative if you use it wrongly or improperly.

It is the power to give respect to a homeless person on the street by acknowledging that you see them by saying a simple hello; it is the power to influence some one to keep moving forward with a difficult task because you believe in them and tell them that; it is the power to comfort those who have lost a loved one because you know the value of love; and it is the power to speak out for those who can't speak out for themselves. 

Power - you all have it - use it wisely because you never know what impact you have on other people even when you think otherwise.

How Old Are You?

Don't count your years. Make your years count

DOREEN MACLEAN, A YOUNG  UP-COMING LEADER.

If we did not know our age, some of us would appear to be very young, and some of us would seem very old. 

Sometimes, people use age as a convenient excuse. "I'm too old to start something new", or, "I couldn't learn that at my age." 

Other people, though, go on to achieve their greatest accomplishments in life in later years.  

Feelings lead to attitudes, attitudes become beliefs, and beliefs become the basis for actions no matter what your age. 

The winning mindset is a fundamental factor in achieving success in life or in business no matter what age you are. This mindset is not created by chance or a flip of the coin. It serves as the foundation of success, conscious growth, wealth, and prosperity. If you want to create a positive mindset, you have to know how it works to help you become the winner. It is not important how old you are; it is how you feel, how you think, and what you do that is important.

People tend to regret the mistakes they have done in the past and strive to protect themselves from the future. This action prevents them from seeing and taking advantage of the amazing opportunities that the PRESENT brings.

There are things in the life that are worth waiting for. However, there are also things that are worth doing right now! Practicing the “Here and Now” mentality allows you to be mindful and conscious.

A "NOW" Mindfulness enables you to focus your attention on the moment. It is a moment-to-moment awareness of the activities that is being practiced in any occasion. It will promote strength, energy, and calmness that are essential in stabilizing everything in life. It doesn't count on your age!!

Practicing the “ Now” mentality requires discipline since it involves engaging in exercises that will improve the capability of an individual to be mindful every day. It also requires removing your attention from the past and the future in times when they are not needed. When focusing on your present life, it is vital that you are aware of the time that you need to accomplish your goals and not about the time that you did not. It would also help if you practice mindfulness when dealing with your emotions, thoughts, and reactions.

Believe in Yourself no matter how young or old you are! You have to believe that you can do anything at your age. You have to trust in your skills, knowledge, and capability when dealing with the challenges that you will face as you tread the path towards success and not your age. 

Today I remember the word from my Great grand father.
"Don't count your years. Make your years count."

ALLOWING YOURSELF TO BE SUCCESSFUL

It's all in your ability

Even without your conscious awareness, your current beliefs may be holding you back. Whether you struggle to believe in yourself, your capabilities, or the vast array of limitless possibilities for your life, you may be shutting out the very thoughts that can propel you to the success you desire.

Pause for a moment and answer this question:

Can you really “see” yourself as a confident, successful person?

If you close your eyes and call up an image of yourself, what does that self look like?

Is he or she enthusiastic about life, willing to take risks, eager to grasp the joy and abundance he/she deserves?

Can you imagine this person with endless opportunities for growth and advancement in life?

If you can’t quite “see” yourself as being successful (or at least having the potential to be successful), it is likely that your own beliefs are creating an inner blockage. Unless you turn this around and open your mind to what is possible, you will continue to sabotage your own efforts. Dissolving inner blockages is not as difficult as it may seem. The two main things you need to have are:

1) the willingness to believe something different,
2) the courage to take action on your new beliefs.

The first step requires a large dose of faith when you first begin to shift your beliefs. All of the “evidence” in your life seems to reinforce your current beliefs, right? You believe you are not successful, not confident, not courageous enough to take risks, and perhaps not the “lucky” type of person that finds great opportunities to move forward. If these are your beliefs, your outer life probably “proves” them to be accurate. You may struggle with lack, fear, procrastination, confusion and frustration on a daily basis. Therefore you know your beliefs are “true”. What many people fail to understand is that their beliefs are what create the “evidence” in their lives.

Here is how it usually happens:

As a child, you are naturally confident, optimistic, open-minded and ready to tackle challenges. You’ve got all the potential in the world at this point, and your life is a blank slate, waiting for you to turn it into a masterpiece. Then the negative conditioning begins. You are given conditions and limitations by the adults in your life (whether your parents, teachers, pastor, or other authority figures). These conditions and limitations begin to alter your belief in what is possible for your life. Rather than encouraging your dream of becoming an engineer (or whatever your personal dream is), you are scolded into being more “practical”.

You start to believe that your dream is foolish, and you are foolish for believing in useless fantasies.

Even worse, the adults in your life start attaching limiting labels to you: learning disabled, dumb, unlucky, accident prone, head in the clouds, challenged, sensitive, weak-willed, irresponsible (and sometimes much more damaging ones).

Eventually, after you begin to believe these things, your actions are affected by them. Instead of choosing Path A, you move toward Path B because you just don’t have what it takes to be one of the “elite” in life.

Throughout your lifetime, every decision you make is based on the beliefs you formed as a child and young adult.

Beliefs prompt specific actions which create specific results which reinforce the beliefs.

Changing your limiting beliefs requires a willingness to have faith that you are NOT dumb, challenged, irresponsible, weak-willed, or unlucky even though your experiences thus far seem to have “proven” those things as being true.

But here’s the good news: if you suspend your beliefs and dare to hope that maybe your impressions are false, and once you start taking actions that correspond with more positive beliefs, your results will change!

YOU ARE THE SOLUTION

DON'T JUST THINK. RETHINK TO SOLVE

How many times have you caught yourself saying that there could be no other solution to a problem and that problem leads to a dead end? How many times have you felt stumped knowing that the problem laying before you is one you cannot solve. No leads. No options. No solutions.

Did it feel like you had exhausted all possible options and yet are still before the mountain large, unconquerable, and impregnable? When encountering such enormous problems, you may feel like you're hammering against a steel mountain. The pressure of having to solve such a problem may be overwhelming.

But rejoice! There might be some hope yet!

With some creative problem-solving techniques you may be able to look at your problem in a different light. And that light might just be the end of the tunnel that leads to possible solutions.

First of all, in the light of creative problem-solving, you must be open-minded to the fact that there may be more than just one solution to the problem. And, you must be open to the fact that there may be solutions to problems you thought were unsolvable.

Now, with this optimistic mindset, we can try to be a little bit more creative in solving our problems.

Number one;

May be the reason we cannot solve our problems is that we have not really taken a hard look at what the problem is. Here, trying to understanding the problem and having a concrete understanding of its workings is integral solving the problem. If you know how it works, what the problem is, then you have a better foundation towards solving the problem.

Not trying to make the simple statement of what problem is. Try to identify the participating entities and what their relationships with one another are. Take note of the things you stand to gain any stand to lose from the current problem. Now you have a simple statement of what the problem is.

Number two;

Try to take note of all of the constraints and assumptions you have the words of problem. Sometimes it is these assumptions that obstruct our view of possible solutions. You have to identify which assumptions are valid, in which assumptions need to be addressed.

Number three;

Try to solve the problem by parts. Solve it going from general view towards the more detailed parts of the problem. This is called the top-down approach. Write down the question, and then come up with a one-sentence solution to that from them. The solution should be a general statement of what will solve the problem. From here you can develop the solution further, and increase its complexity little by little.

Number four;

Although it helps to have critical thinking aboard as you solve a problem, you must also keep a creative, analytical voice at the back of your head. When someone comes up with a prospective solution, tried to think how you could make that solution work. Try to be creative. At the same time, look for chinks in the armor of that solution.

Number five;

It pays to remember that there may be more than just one solution being developed at one time. Try to keep track of all the solutions and their developments. Remember, there may be more than just one solution to the problem.

Number six;

Remember that old adage," two heads are better than one." That one is truer than it sounds. Always be open to new ideas. You can only benefit from listening to all the ideas each person has. This is especially true when the person you're talking to has had experience solving problems similar to yours.

You don't have to be a gung-ho, solo hero to solve the problem. If you can organize collective thought on the subject, it would be much better.

Number seven;

Be patient. As long as you persevere, there is always a chance that a solution will present itself. Remember that no one was able to create an invention the first time around.

Creative thinking exercises can also help you in your quest be a more creative problems solver.

Now, next time you see a problem you think you can not solve, think again. The solution might just be staring you right in the face. All it takes is just a little creative thinking, some planning, and a whole lot of work.

REMEMBER:

Understand that most problems are a good sign. Problems indicate that progress is being made, wheels are turning, you are moving toward your goals. Beware when you have no problems. Then you've really got a problem. Problems are like landmarks of progress.

HOW VALUABLE ARE YOU

PEOPLE WOULD RATHER BE SHOWN HOW VALUABLE YOU ARE, NOT TOLD.

Let me tell you a story of two people I worked with three years ago. One achieved success and the other one, well, they did not accomplish what they often talked about. 

Both of these individuals were the same age, and approximate intelligence. Both wanted to progress in their careers, they wanted to climb the ladder of success. 

But, there was on major difference between them. One just talked and complained about not getting ahead while other person took the initiative by taking courses, finding solutions, keeping their attitude positive no matter what the situation. 

Now, three years later, the person who talked and complained is still talking and complaining and still remains in the same position. The person who took the initiative and found solutions has been promoted several times. 

What you have accomplished in the past is a much stronger example than talking about what you are capable of doing in the future.

You probably know people just like the story above. Many of these people may be part of your own family, or friends, or colleagues or acquaintances. Sometimes, it is a matter of helping them with what they seek to achieve while other times it doesn't seem to matter what you do or say. 

Now, if you are one of those individuals who desire to achieve something but do more talking about what you might do as opposed to actually taking action, there are a few things for you to consider doing. 

The first thing to consider is asking yourself a serious question and that question is how badly do you really want your desire to come to reality? If your answer is really only one where you think about achieving your dream but really do not want to go the extra mile, or have a burning and absolute desire, then you do not want it badly enough to mend your ways. 

On the other hand if you want your desire so badly that it is all you ever think about then you have an opportunity. This opportunity must be set into motion or you will end up just like everybody else whom only talks but takes no action. 

My word to you is, Do it now for there is no better time to get into motion than the present.!!