HEY! WATCH YOUR LANGUAGE!

Words Count!

The way you use words during self-talk has a tremendous impact on whether your subconscious mind works for you or against you.

For instance when you say, "I can't...," rather than, "I choose not to...," you convey to your subconscious mind that you have no choice in the situation. This creates a helpless attitude about your behavior and weakens your resolve.

"I choose..." implies that you have a choice in the matter. Likewise, when you say "I must...," and "I have to...." you are telling your subconscious mind that you
have no control over your behavior, that someone or something outside yourself is in the driver's seat.

This does not enthusiastically work to move you toward your goals. Therefore, always say "I choose to...," which, after all, usually is the truth of the matter.

Also, beware of using "I should..." It implies to your subconscious mind that your choice of behavior is being made from a position of guilt, which serves to
undermine your self-discipline power.

Remember: It's "I choose ..." When your
subconscious mind hears your priorities stated in a forceful, positive manner, it feels your power. It then uses that power to mobilize your inner resources toward achieving your priorities. In other words,
words count.

If you state your self-talk messages aloud, then they will be even stronger because your message will involve
two physical components, speech and hearing.

Your messages will have the power and support of not only your mental network, but also your physical network.

All the muscles and motor functions that are involved in your speaking and hearing will be activated and enlisted in the process of moving you toward doing your desired activity.

In other words, the more parts of yourself you involve in your self-talk, the more powerful the message will be to your subconscious mind. And, in turn, your subconscious mind will have more strength to support the actions you desire.

Watch your language then!

Reuben Koikai
Founder: Koikai Events

Contacts:
+255 718 143 903
benkoikai4@gmail.com

LIFE CHANGING QUESTION

AN IMPORTANT QUESTION

Think About The Answer

We are always being asked questions. But what about the questions that change our lives. 

I was once asked such a question as a young man. The question was asked one eventful day during a shift I worked as a student in my College. 

When I was a student, as part of my responsibilities, I had an opportunity to meeting several elderly men who where all unique in their own way, and some of these gentleman took a lot more care than others, and some were a lot grumpier than others. 

A lot of students, quite frankly, did not enjoy talking with these men and would try to avoid spending any more time there then they had to. On the contrary, I took the opposite tack attending to the talks of these men. 

Instead of just asking about my academics development, I spent a lot of time talking, learning, just good old give them attention beyond what they needed time. So, I became the main target of their pent up mental energy and honestly, I had a lot of fun spending my time with them. 

But, beyond establishing a great rapport with these men, there was one gentleman I spent a lot of time talking with. He wasn't at first appearance much different than the rest but he had a wicked sense of humor and a grand spirit about him

Life Changing Question

One day, after all necessary academics and leadership tasks were done and I stayed with them, he called me over to his Office. At first thinking he was about to introduce the obvious topic's, I was ready. Instead, he beckoned me even close so he could obviously speak very quietly to me out of earshot of the other man. 

In a soft voice just above a whisper, he asked,

"What do you want to be remembered for after you die?" 

I was somewhat taken back thinking immediately that he was old  man, may be he got physical distress and required immediate medical attention. I quickly asked, "What's wrong? 

"No, no, no, nothing bad", he whispered. 

"I want you to think about just what I said. What do you want to be remembered for after you die? 

I Didn't Understand

"I don't understand what you are asking me". I said confused. 

"It really is a simple question but an important question. How do you want people to think of you when you die? Do you want to be known for your humor, for your caring, for helping people no matter who they are, or do you want to be remembered as a person of status, wealth, spending big money on a house, fancy car, long vacations or possessing big assets?"

I know I probably sounded like a babbling idiot to him at that time because I couldn't give him a well thought out answer at all. I still remember feeling uncomfortable because I had no clear answer to give. 

A Question Worth Thinking About

Over the years, we may all face this important question. It may be a question that comes to you because of a tragic circumstance, or it may come to you after you have observed or witnessed other people stepping up to many needed issues and taking on great odds to change societal obligations. 

It may be a question you ask in later years when you finally realize that you won't live forever. Or, it may also be a question that you may never want to ask yourself because you are too caught up in enjoying the materialistic side of life. 

Think About The Answer

Is it time for you to ask, "What do you want to be remembered for after you die?"

THE POWER YOU CAN NOT BUY

IT IS WITHIN YOU

Who do you know who has a lot of power? Maybe you know some famous business leaders who own and run large corporations worth millions of dollars or you may know some famous politicians, successful authors, or individual speculators in real estate who have made it big. Each of these types of people probably have buying power beyond what you ever imagined, or professional power to influence the policies or events of a country, or even the power to make or break careers as they see fit. 

But, I want to talk about a different kind of power and one that I believe is worth a lot more than you may realize. 

This is the kind of power that successful people know about from first hand experience, and the kind of power that cannot ever be taken from you. 

It is the kind of power that can change lives for the better, or make an everlasting mark on the well being of many around them.

So, what kind of power is this?
Where can you get it?
Is it available to only the chosen few? 

The Point Is This

We all have personal power to affect the behaviors of others and this is the power you can't buy, beg or steal. 

It is the power in your words and actions to influence others but this power can also be negative if you use it wrongly or improperly.

It is the power to give respect to a homeless person on the street by acknowledging that you see them by saying a simple hello; it is the power to influence some one to keep moving forward with a difficult task because you believe in them and tell them that; it is the power to comfort those who have lost a loved one because you know the value of love; and it is the power to speak out for those who can't speak out for themselves. 

Power - you all have it - use it wisely because you never know what impact you have on other people even when you think otherwise.